Should I Sleep Train?

This is such a personal question, and I want to say this clearly:

There is no “right” answer — only what works for your family.

If you are choosing to co-sleep and it feels good for everyone, that’s okay. If you’re choosing to respond to your baby throughout the night and you’re able to do that without resentment or burnout, that’s okay too.

Just do it intentionally.

If you are co-sleeping, make sure you’re doing it safely. Follow the Safe Sleep Seven. Understand that by choosing to co-sleep, you are also choosing to support your baby during night wakings — and that’s not a failure. That’s a parenting choice.

On the other hand, if sleep feels unsustainable — if you’re exhausted, overwhelmed, or feeling like something needs to change — it’s also okay to want your baby to learn how to sleep more independently.

And this is where I want to clear something up:

Sleep training does not mean not responding to your baby. Sleep training does not mean letting them cry alone.

Sleep training means teaching self-regulation skills. It means helping your baby learn how to fall asleep and go back to sleep with confidence — in a way that feels safe and supportive.

In my approach, babies are never left to cry alone. Parents are actively involved. It’s hands-on, responsive, and rooted in attachment and development.

Independent sleep is a skill — just like eating, walking, or regulating emotions. And if you want your baby to learn that skill, then yes, sleep training can be a helpful tool.

But it only works when you want to do it. If your heart isn’t in it, that matters. This has to be a choice you feel good about.

If you’re on the fence and want guidance without pressure, that’s exactly why I created my sleep guides — to support families wherever they are.

You can explore them here:👉 https://peacefulpeanut.gumroad.com/